There's a term "Kazoku sabisu" in Japanese,it literally means "family service".
Family service is what fathers in Japan are expected to do on weekends/holidays,they are expected to entertain the wife and kids by taking them out,hiking or camping or any other family activity,maybe even cook for them,give the wife a break and it's obligatory.
Don't you think it's pretty much the same in any country.I've always wondered as to where does that leave the man,his time,it could very well be that some men really enjoy doing family service,but,what if one wants to be left alone,since there's much social interaction everyday what if solitude is what he craves.What if his idea of destressing has nothing to do with family time?
I know that women too are leading stressful lives,and now with most of us working,it's crazy all the more,but,atleast women are appreciated,praised,recognised,acknowledged and looked up to.A stay at home mom's job is no piece of cake either,it's the most difficult,ask me,from the cleaning to the grocery shopping,cooking,dropping kids to school and bringing them back,helping them with their homework,it's crazy,it's hectic,but atleast we can squeeze in some "me time" when the kids and the husband are away,and we also don't have to put up with annoying colleagues or suck up to the boss, plus we get appreciated for the work we do.
But men,they struggle at work,suck up to their bosses,interact with people they don't like,do overtime to clear backlog,get frowned upon when they refuse to put in extra time,live in constant fear with their jobs on the line because of so much competition and don't get credit and much more, similar situations for men who own their business,they need constant working on to earn some profit,cut expenses, manage employees,fight competition and try innovative methods to get customers, basically everyday is war.And since he's the man of the house, he has to be the pillar of strength even if he's crumbling from the inside,that must be so emotionally and mentally taxing right?
On a day off he can't get any "me time" because everybody's around at home,the poor guy gets judged for sleeping and for not tagging along to shopping and even for sulking about the traffic,it's like everybody's at his throat,telling him "it's your job to entertain us,come on make us feel special".
Don't you think life kills him a li'l each day,given the circumstances our love might be just the saving grace,let's appreciate and acknowledge what he does for us a li'l more,give him his space and time,make him feel special for a change and maybe sometimes we should do some "daddy service" too.....a wee bit of empathy for him is essentially the need of the hour.
Note: this was mostly about families with stay at home moms.
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Family service is what fathers in Japan are expected to do on weekends/holidays,they are expected to entertain the wife and kids by taking them out,hiking or camping or any other family activity,maybe even cook for them,give the wife a break and it's obligatory.
Don't you think it's pretty much the same in any country.I've always wondered as to where does that leave the man,his time,it could very well be that some men really enjoy doing family service,but,what if one wants to be left alone,since there's much social interaction everyday what if solitude is what he craves.What if his idea of destressing has nothing to do with family time?
I know that women too are leading stressful lives,and now with most of us working,it's crazy all the more,but,atleast women are appreciated,praised,recognised,acknowledged and looked up to.A stay at home mom's job is no piece of cake either,it's the most difficult,ask me,from the cleaning to the grocery shopping,cooking,dropping kids to school and bringing them back,helping them with their homework,it's crazy,it's hectic,but atleast we can squeeze in some "me time" when the kids and the husband are away,and we also don't have to put up with annoying colleagues or suck up to the boss, plus we get appreciated for the work we do.
But men,they struggle at work,suck up to their bosses,interact with people they don't like,do overtime to clear backlog,get frowned upon when they refuse to put in extra time,live in constant fear with their jobs on the line because of so much competition and don't get credit and much more, similar situations for men who own their business,they need constant working on to earn some profit,cut expenses, manage employees,fight competition and try innovative methods to get customers, basically everyday is war.And since he's the man of the house, he has to be the pillar of strength even if he's crumbling from the inside,that must be so emotionally and mentally taxing right?
On a day off he can't get any "me time" because everybody's around at home,the poor guy gets judged for sleeping and for not tagging along to shopping and even for sulking about the traffic,it's like everybody's at his throat,telling him "it's your job to entertain us,come on make us feel special".
Don't you think life kills him a li'l each day,given the circumstances our love might be just the saving grace,let's appreciate and acknowledge what he does for us a li'l more,give him his space and time,make him feel special for a change and maybe sometimes we should do some "daddy service" too.....a wee bit of empathy for him is essentially the need of the hour.
Note: this was mostly about families with stay at home moms.